THE SHOE FETISHFor most of us, a shoe is simply something that stops us from getting home with our feet completely destroyed. For other people, however, it can become a powerful object of desire. Not necessarily because they want to have sex with a stiletto heel —although the internet is always ready to prove that absolutely anything is possible— but because
the brain has an extraordinary ability to load objects that are not inherently sexual with erotic meaning.
A shoe is not entirely separate from the body. It covers it, retains its shape, changes its posture and alters the way a person walks. High heels visually lengthen the legs, lift the buttocks, encourage the hips to sway and can turn an ordinary entrance into a full-blown statement of intent.
Desire may begin at the foot, but it rarely ends there.
There is also the appeal of what remains hidden. A shoe encloses a part of the body that stays out of sight for most of the day. And eroticism has always got along particularly well with anything that is suggested, concealed or never completely revealed. Sometimes, slowly removing a shoe can create more tension than taking off a much more intimate garment, because
arousal does not depend solely on how much is shown, but on everything our imagination builds around it.
Psychoanalysis has interpreted the shoe as a sexual symbol associated with penetration, femininity, domination or even as a symbolic substitute for a part of the body.
Modern psychology tends to view the matter in slightly less dramatic terms. Desire can also be learned through association: an intense sexual experience, someone we found attractive, a smell, a texture or a particular image can become connected in our memory. If a pair of shoes was present during especially exciting moments,
the brain may eventually turn them into a direct shortcut to arousal.
Shoes also say a great deal about the person wearing them. They can convey elegance, power, rebellion, vulnerability, authority or availability. We do not desire only the object, but also the attitude, the body and the fantasy it represents. The heel stops being a simple piece of leather and plastic and becomes the promise of a particular woman, a particular situation or a particular role within the sexual game.
As long as the fetish is enjoyed between consenting adults and causes no suffering, there is nothing to cure and very little to worry about. We have all learned to become aroused by following some rather peculiar paths. Some people need a certain look; others, a voice or a particular item of clothing; and some, apparently, need
a high-heeled shoe with exactly the right toe and enough reasons not to ask what happened to the other one.
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ALL FOR A GOOD TIPHave you ever seen those places where you can order coffee without getting out of your car and the barista serves you wearing nothing but a bikini? They've been running this particular business model in the United States for years, where
the caffeine matters, but it clearly isn't the only reason some customers keep coming back every morning.
A few years ago, we dedicated a post to one of the most famous baristas at
Bikini Beans Espresso, a chain that realized you can find coffee on practically every corner, but
a bikini-clad barista serving it directly through your car window is much harder to forget.
From there, each barista decides how far she wants to take the experience. Some simply prepare your order, smile, and wish you a nice day. Others, when the customer proves to be generous, seem willing to offer
a little more than some extra milk in the coffee.
Because a good tip can considerably improve the service and, at certain places, persuade the barista to put on
a little personalized show without you ever having to leave the driver's seat.
The coffee might not be the best in town, but some customers certainly leave feeling wide awake.
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